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A Woman Told me I Must Not Have Children Planned Because I’ve a Large Closet
And it bothered me more than it should have.
A woman and I were chatting the other day about clothes and closets, a tidy little conversation perfect for the office. I was happily telling her how I had converted one of our spare rooms into my closet when she burst my clothes-obsessed bubble with a smirk and a quick ‘you must not be planning on kids, then’.
Used to people commenting on my reproductive rights, organs and plans, I smiled and said a maybe, moving on with my day.
At least, I tried to. Her comment stuck with me. I’m not sure why this particular one bothered me so much, why it was far more infuriating than anyone asking me if/when I’m planning on having kids, but it got to me.
Maybe it’s because I’ve thought about this possible future scenario. About how, if we so choose to have kids, if it would all work out. Would my closet really be taking up too much room? What if we have two kids? Do I have to give up something I absolutely love because one kid would have to sleep in the basement and we’d have no spare rooms left for visitors? Would it be as important to me as it is, now? What if it is and I’m forced to downsize because of economical logistics? Even scarier, what if it’s not as important to me in…
